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AprilWhine

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Posted: 08/04/13 02:25am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

I don't normally use the campground showers, but today my friend and I went to the bath house to do hair highlights. While we were both in the shower, a woman with a boy who appeared to be about 12 came in.

I was behind my shower curtain, but they barged in on my friend while she was drying. Startled to say the least, she heard the woman mumble that the boy needed help.

As I was drying off, they both came by my stall and the boy was staring at me. I saw no sign that he couldn't bath himself. He didn't sound mentally incapable while talking to the woman, and didn't show any physical disabilities.

I will not be using the campground bath houses again if there is no reasonable expectation of privacy. With my military background, I'm use to gang showers but a half grown boy is not something I want to see in the showers!

Is this common? Are parents taking the opposite sex offspring into public showers now?


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Posted: 08/04/13 03:45am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

In our travels that would be a very unusual happening. Never happened to us.


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Posted: 08/04/13 05:24am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

Just because he didn't appear to have a disability, doesn't mean he did not. Also, maybe his mother saw someone, 'shady' in the men's bathroom, and didn't trust the boy to go alone. Personally, I may have been upset if I was waiting to use the shower, and you were dying your hair!





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Posted: 08/04/13 05:34am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

Yea, you can't assume what their problem might have been. 12 sure is older but there had to be a good reason she brought him in. I never had this happen but I am sure it startled your friend. In that short span, just because 'you didn't see it' that boy could have many problems that his parent had to deal with.

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On more than one occasion I have run into over protective mothers that do not seem to want to let go. They are dragging their sons into public women's bathrooms at ages up to 12. I think, around that age, the boys start to break free and I have not seen one older than that, yet, unless there was an obvious need.


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Posted: 08/04/13 05:39am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

In any case it seems reasonable for the mother to first go into the ladies bath house alone to see if it was ok to bring the boy in.


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Posted: 08/04/13 06:00am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

tenbear wrote:

In any case it seems reasonable for the mother to first go into the ladies bath house alone to see if it was ok to bring the boy in.


Agreed. And if she HAD to take him in there, knowing there were women undressed using the shower, I would expect her to "shield" his view somehow, or at least make an effort to. No matter what his mental state/capacity, I would not want him taking long looks at the shower area...


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Posted: 08/04/13 06:19am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

Make that accompanying two modest 13 year old girls to the showers only to find a boy who appeared to be their age joining his female family members in the bathhouse (curtains only, no doors).

We left. My daughter and her friend were mortified.

I have a son and understand it can be difficult to allow them to bathe alone if Dad/trusted adult male cannot accompany him but I don't think either gender should give up an expectation of privacy in bathing facilities.

Disabilities change the equation but I still don't think that supersedes my right to expect not to have myself - or my young daughter - bathing with males.

Solo dads have issues too. Imagine a father camping or out with young girls. I have had a bashful man ask me to take his young girls in because HE certainly can't - nor can two little girls be taken into the men's restroom and/or bathhouse.

Family restrooms and shower houses should be the wave of the future - when possible. Male, female and a third "family" option is great if space and budget allows.

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Posted: 08/04/13 06:27am Link  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

KFS wrote:

Family restrooms and shower houses should be the wave of the future - when possible. Male, female and a third "family" option is great if space and budget allows.


I have been in several campgrounds that are set up similar to this, and wish more would follow.

All had rows of "bathrooms" like you would find in a stick house - a room with toilet, sink and shower - and it's own solid locking door (some had exterior doors, some had doors that opened to a central room). Totally solves the privacy issue, and accompanying kids issue.

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