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hershey

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Posted: 12/19/13 05:38pm Link  |  Quote  |  Print  |  Notify Moderator

A nice nearly new Newmar was backing into a space just across from me. He and the wife have wireless mikes and earphones so there is a lot of communication between them both by voice and by arm movements (and the slamming of the tranny into reverse and drive and extremely jerky movements).
He has little problem getting into the space which is nice and wide but works very hard at getting his MH across the space in the opposite direction that it should be in. It has a patio so its a no-brainer. But, he's kinda straddling a corner of the patio. This goes on for about 15 minutes and there was a lot of hand waving and yelling besides the communication devices.
Now he's on his belly, crawling under the MH to insert the dump end of the sewer hose into the sewer inlet. Its about 2' under the MH at this point. He has a FMCA number that is not nearly a new one so I'm assuming this isn't his first rodeo...maybe the number plate came with the MH? Who knows.
I feel a bit like a jerk for not pointing out some of the obvious things that would simplify his parking and utility hookups but he doesn't look like the type that would see my effort as intended...more like an intrusion.


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Likely best to do just as you did.
I might watch from a short distance so that he could see me. If he initiated contact then I could probably determine if he might be open to casual comments about such things. Better that than to step in and point out his mistakes.
If he did not speak then I would just disappear back to my site.

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I think you should have let it alone just like you did. If they wanted help they could have asked for it. If you jump in without being asked then you are just being a know-it-all busy body. There is a fine line between being helpful and being nosy.


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I always feel if someone needs help and I am visible, that someone will ask for help. Otherwise, I mind my own business. I know I have a certain procedure that I follow when hooking up.


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If someone asks for help or someone is going to get hurt, otherwise I stay out of it.





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I usually go and ask the wife if she thinks he'll yell at me if I help him get parked. If she laughs then all is good and she says "he's all yours". If she does not laugh then I say sorry to intrude and walk away. Rarely do I walk away. In these situations a little humor goes a long way with most people.


This post is my opinion (free advice). It is not intended to influence anyone's judgment nor do I advocate anyone do what I propose.

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It's free entertainment, like being at a boat ramp on a busy weekend. Sit back and enjoy the show.


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When it comes to certain things, if you're not asked to join the party, it's just best to stay away. Nothing says you can't sit back and watch the entertainment though.

For all practical purposes, that guy has to learn how to do it himself, and that comes only by practice.

You did the right thing by keeping your distance.


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I have backed other people's boats at ramps because they were inconveniencing a lot of people and smart enough to know they needed help. I help RV'ers if they ask...............


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All depends on how long I am going to be staying there. If it is for a short period of time I will hop in with a big "need some help!" since 9 times out 10 it is appreciated. If I am going to be there for a longer time, I am not going to take the chance of P.O.ing that 1 in 10 someone the first minute they arrive. I will wait until they actually do something that bothers me before I make my newest enemy.

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